How fluent are you in body language? Actions speak louder than words, especially in the bedroom. In our feature Body Language we follow sex writer Mimi gathering x-rated stories at a wedding.

Episode 1, Shut Up and Communicate is all about non verbal conversation with Esluna Love and Frank Rock...

When it came to communicating with her lovers, Olivia was an expert. And it was all due to her ex... He was such a 'good boyfriend' that he would go down on her for hours. It sounds great except it never turned her on the way she knew it could. She wanted to tell him that it wasn’t the length of time he spent down there, it was the moves that he made, but her attempts to talk were met with defensiveness. Then she realised that actions can speak louder than words. Changing position to sit on her partner's face she easily shows him what she really likes, while he loves her display of confidence. Both of them thoroughly turned on, they fuck madly, reaching new heights of pleasure. All without saying a word.

I think that all of us have at some point experienced being intimate with someone, not enjoying what is happening but not saying anything. Talking about sex can be hard and the last thing you want to do is be critical. However, being open and communicating what you do and don't enjoy during sex is not only a direct way to get what you want, but also leads to more intimacy with your partner. It's good for your sex life and your relationship.

Talking dirty is one thing, but communicating in the bedroom doesn't have to sound like cheesy porn. Unless that's what turns you on of course! But if you're feeling nervous, here are some simple and very manageable tips to up your communication game...

Start outside of the bedroom - start with a chat or even a text with an idea of something you'd like to try, all before getting naked. Much less pressure that when you're already getting intimate.

Positive reinforcement - Try suggesting something that you know you enjoy as a way to transition out of something that you are not enjoying. You can also use memories here, 'I loved it when you did...' as another way of letting your partner know what you like.

Make some noise - Moans and sighs of pleasure can help to guide your partner. Saying 'Yes' can also be an easy way to let them know you like what's happening, without having to worry about talking dirty.

And of course - Body Language. Guide their hand, move your hips, change position. Check out Esluna Love and Frank Rock here for inspiration...

Stay safe. Have fun. Issy x