2020 has definitely been the year of remote connections. Zoom meetings, keeping in touch with video chat and fewer and fewer face to face meetings have all been a big part of our lives. Technology allows us to keep in contact in much more fun ways than were available in the past. Imagine writing letters to people you fancied and having to wait and wait for their reply? Smartphones can be a double edged sword in many ways, but when it comes to keeping in touch with our nearest and dearest they have made life much more connected than ever before.

With relationships becoming more and more long distance you may already have plunged into the world of phone sex. If you haven't, then you most definitely should, it's fun, keeps you and your partner connected and with a few tips you can be sure of having a good time... With that in mind here are some cheeky tips to improve your (phone) sex life...

1. Consent. As always, consent is sexy and it's key. Don't just video chat someone naked and hope for the best. Bring up the subject of phone sex in advance and gauge your partner's reaction. You can easily ask something like 'I know I'm not going to see you for a little while, I was thinking we could maybe try phone sex while we are apart?' You can use the proverbial 'friend who enjoys phone sex' as an example or way to bring up the subject. Remember that phone sex can just be auditory or you can use video chat. It's always best that everyone gets their boundaries straight before getting down...

2. Practice some lingo... Many of the words we use for sexual things don't sound very sexy. You need to get into at least a bit of dirty talk. A great way to do this is to read erotica, or even head to the JoyBear website to read a few descriptions of our scenes... Audio erotica is also a good bet. If any of this makes you feel a bit silly or uncomfortable then definitely have a practice beforehand and try and desensitise yourself a bit. Personally for me, during my teenage years sex was such a taboo that at first I found it really difficult to say certain words out loud, but let me assure you from experience that practice makes progress...

3. Get your scene set. Don't just sit on the sofa in an old pair of pyjamas. Even if it's not a video call it makes a big difference what you wear and what your space looks like because it affects how you personally feel. Tidy you space, get your lighting soft and sexy, set up a playlist. Make sure to put your phone on Do Not Disturb and then turn off all other technology. Put on an outfit that makes you feet sexy. Taking it off during your session will give you something to talk about, especially important if you're nervous.

4. Touchy feely time... Once you're on your call it's of course up to you how you want to take your session. Personally for me a slow strip off while describing what I am doing eases me in and also gets my partner very hot under the collar. Remember that anticipation and taking things slow makes for an explosive release later on, it's not a race to get anywhere. Whatever you do, just describe it. You can ask your partner what they are doing or what they would like you to do to yourself. Sexy suggestions for each other can make for a great game...

Check back next week for plenty of ideas for sexy phone sex games to try and more tips for super hot remote connections...

Stay safe. Have fun. Issy x