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All About Pegging posted on 12th June 2020

Have you seen our latest episode of Pleasure Fix - Fuck Normal? Kali Sudhra and Bishop Black are Gail and Jim, a couple in an open relationship who we met in Episode 1. They love to use our fictional JoyBear app Pleasure Fix to keep things fresh and spicy in their sex life. This episode involves an often misunderstood but increasingly popular sex act - pegging. I think it's safe to say that when a quick Google search of the term brings up plenty of articles from mainstream media that pegging is on the rise. So just what is it all about, and should you give it a try?

In most cases pegging is when a man is penetrated by a woman wearing a strap on dildo, although of course pegging isn't just for straight couples, it's a sex act available to one and all, regardless of gender or body parts. However the term usually refers to a male being penetrated by a female. For straight couples this can bring up many feelings as it turns gender roles upside down and also introduces power play into what is for many, a taboo act. And taboo is, for many, a big turn on.


As well as the mental turn on, for men there is also the prostate gland. Anal penetration with a dildo has the power to reach and massage this gland which is sometimes known at the 'male G-spot.' The anus and rectum are both full of erotic nerve endings, so anal penetration can result in super intense orgasms, which we can all get behind!

For the woman the experience of 'having a penis' can be highly erotic and the element of flipping the gender roles and being the giver rather than receiver, or the dominant party, is something that turns a lot of women on. On top of this, wearing the dildo can be very pleasurable as they provide continuous clitoral stimulation as she thrusts and grinds. Some even have pockets designed to hold small vibrators, taking the whole act to new levels of pleasure.


So if all of this has intrigued you how do you go about introducing this idea to your partner? In our film Gail and Jim use the Common Kinks feature on the app - this is also a feature of many other sex apps, so check out our blog on that for more inspiration, otherwise if you want to give pegging a try here are some steps to get you started...


First and most importantly - talk about it. Communication and consent are key as always. If you find it hard to bring up maybe watch some porn with your partner that involves pegging to gauge their reaction. Share with them an interesting article about it. Speak hypothetically and you'll soon see by their responses how they feel about it. Be prepared that they may not want to and never push the issue.


Remember that part of this is about rebelling against our conditioned gender roles and stereotypes. Be prepared to work though the fact that anal sex is not about sexual orientation, it's about sexual pleasure. Don't let conditioned ideas about sexuality get in the way of you and your partner having an amazing time.

If you decide to take the plunge, then remember to take things slow and make sure that both of you communicate fully about what you like and what might be too much.


Firstly - hygiene is super important here. This is anal sex so be prepared that there may be some element of messiness. The receiver should try to poop a few hours before you plan to get sexy, and then have a good wash. Some people like to douche, it's a personal choice, if you haven't before then make sure to read up on how to get started with douching and potential risks.

Your pegging kit should at the very least include a dildo, strap on and lots of lube. You can also get anal training kits with dildos that gradually increase in size. However, you should start with your hands first as you will have much more control, and of course feeling, than with a toy. Take it slowly and try different things, slowly working up to trying out your dildo. Remember that anal sex should not hurt! Time, lube and communication are key here. There are lots of ideas to be found online about the best positions so perhaps make that research part of your preparation so you both know where you want to end up.


Pegging is an intense sex act but as you can imagine it can be a beautiful bonding experience if done right. Remember to communicate and have fun with your partner and enjoy getting to know each other even better.


Stay safe. Have fun. Issy x



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