Shibari isn't always sexual. Although it is quite often associated with BDSM, many people partake in Shibari as an art form. Some people practice it solo and find that the tying and untying can quiet a busy mind or even be used as a meditative activity.

Shibari developed from Hojo-jutsu. In ancient Japan Samurai warriors took pride in treating their captives with respect and one way that they showed this was by restraining them with artistic bindings, known as Hojo-jutsu. After time this developed into Kinbaku-bi, which translates as 'the beauty of tight binding', which is now known as Shibari.

Shibari is truly inclusive. The art can be enjoyed by all genders, body types and sexual orientations and is a beautiful way to bring good communication and trust into your sex life, as well as fun. It's easy to get started and you can learn some beautiful ties in just an afternoon. Have a look at the Hishi Karada (‘Rope Dress’) and the Star (Pentagram) Harness at The Duchy and I challenge you not to be inspired... 

Some Shibari terms - The 'Rigger' or 'Rope Top' refer to the person doing the tying and the 'Bunny' or 'Rope Bottom' refer to the person being tied up. Someone tying themselves is referred to as a 'self-tie' and a tie done on the floor is a 'floor tie'. Doesn't sound too scary or complicated does it?

Want to get started with Shibari? Firstly you need to read up on safety and limits, The Duchy has brilliant resources on this as well as a beginners course, check them out here.

Consent and communication are key as always. Being restrained may being up emotions that you are not expecting so always set a safe word with your partner and have a quick way to release the bunny from the tie. Experts recommend medical scissors (also called EMT shears) so that you can easily cut and release someone if needed. Some of the knots are extremely intricate and take some time to remove so you will need this option.

Rope - Of course to get started at home you will need rope. Experts recommend natural fibre ropes for beginners, such as those made from hemp, jute, sisal, cotton or coconut. For more information on rope head here.

Tip - try a blindfold for the bunny. When you are learning your knots, having your partner watch you can be a little, well, off putting. A bliindfold solves this and also heightens the sensations for your partner.

Start simple - Although the more complicated knots may look amazing, start off with the easier ones and work your way up. No need to get yourself in a tangle.

Enjoy the untying - it's part of the process and should be savoured. The release from bondage can be one of the most erotic parts of the experience.

Have fun. Stay safe. Issy x